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    Give Us Advice On How To Help Her Out With My Mom

    by  • February 6, 2008 • Tagged: , ,  • Comments

    Another day, another post about dealing with my mom.

    While my mom’s antics are quite bearable for me, it is mainly because I’ve been dealing with her all of my life. Her, on the other hand, has only had a few years of experience with directly dealing with my mom. Her has been great about doing stuff with my mom and respecting my mom’s cultural wishes.

    There are times, though, when my mom gets a little out of hand, especially with questions dealing with finances. When Her and I are together, I can easily deflect direct questions about finances; my mom has no qualms about asking anything from me directly. But what should Her do when my mom asks her a financial question and I’m not there?

    Here’s a recent example: Her and my mom went to a wedding shower of another close family friend. Of course since we’ve been planning our wedding for, uh, forever, my mom turned some of the guests’ attention to that topic. My mom and her friends were asking Her direct questions such as, “How much did _______ cost?” Her understandably felt uncomfortable and ended up divulging the information to them. Hey, a bunch of feisty Asian women can be terribly intimidating…you know…all the ninja stuff and everything.

    So, dear readers, we ask for your advice:

    When asked by my mom a direct finance-related question and I’m not around, how should Her handle it?

    Is my mom out of line?

    How should I give my mom a karate-chop to have her stop putting Her in uncomfortable positions like that?

    You Spent How Much?!?!?: Take Our First Ever Poll

    by  • July 19, 2006 • Tagged:   • Comments

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    $php_poll->set_template_set(“MLND individ”);
    echo $php_poll->poll_process(7);
    ?>

    Before Her and I were properly engaged and our money all lived in one place, we didn’t have to own up to anyone concerning our individual purchases. In the past, Her would come home with $500 shoes, and I’d just go back to playing Playstation. I’d come home with a $200 remote control, and she’d shrug. I shudder to think what our finances would look like if we continued to do that.

    Since we’ve combined our money we’re much more cautious about what we spend on money on. We’re hyperaware of the debts and bills that we have to pay each month, so we’re careful about how much of the joint account money can go towards clothes and eating out. While we do have our own personal allowance accounts, sometimes there’s a nice decorative piece, a great sale on clothes, or dinner out with friends that pops up when we’re out and about by ourselves. Sometimes we’ll call each other, to ask if a purchase is okay. Sometimes we won’t. While most of the time the decision is left to common sense, there are definitely times that we find ourselves in a gray area of decision making.

    Spending $50 without letting Her know makes me feel a little uncomfortable. If it’s $100, I’ll ask – I’d rather err on the side of caution than risk coming home and getting sent straight to the doghouse. What about you?