This post is part of our week-long series on Creating Financial Transparency for Couples.
2. There are unclear privacy boundaries.
Jay believes that he has a right to see his wife’s financial statements. Jay’s wife believes that she has a right to keep her financial statements private. According to Anne Kathering, author of Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day, clarifies this boundary issue. Making important decisions together promotes intimacy. Refusing to discuss important matters is a violation of intimacy boundaries. Jay’s wife could reframe this issue to see that by allowing Jay to share her financial statements, she is being intimate and building a strong foundation for their relationship. In return, Jay could acknowledge the gift of intimacy his wife has shared with him, and show her that he appreciates her effort.
Other posts in this series:
1. There are two different methods of documentation being used. (Monday)
3. There are two different spending styles at odds. (Wednesday)
4. No dedicated time exists for talking about finances. (Thursday)
5. There’s no unified financial plan (Friday)